Posted by Melissa
There are times when we have all wondered if we should stick our nose into somebody else’s relationship issues. When you’re on the outside looking in, you see things from a different perspective—but is it really your place to butt in?
Read Philemon 20-25. Focus on verse 21.
What was Paul confident about?
What was the obedience Paul talked about in verse 21?
What are some ways that people try to “help” relationship conflicts that only make them worse?
What are some positive ways that people can help others who are struggling with conflict?
Do you have friends who are struggling with conflict? Explain.
Is there a way that you could step in and encourage forgiveness to take place, like Paul did in these verses?
Paul did everything he could to bring peace and encourage forgiveness between Philemon and Onesimus. He was confident that Philemon would do the right thing and welcome Onesimus with open arms. Paul loved both men so much that he couldn’t keep quiet; he had to butt in. If he wouldn’t have, it could have had lifelong consequences.
If you have friends who are struggling with a conflict, don’t immediately throw yourself in the middle of it and try to fix it. First take it to the Lord in prayer. Then, wait for an opportunity to encourage forgiveness and reconciliation. Whatever you do, don’t get drawn into the drama! Remain neutral and encourage both sides to do the right thing. Sometimes it’s right to step in and help reconciliation along!